Tub Talk

By Paul Dunion / July 30, 2017

I have committed to bringing what I refer to as more Hermetic energy into my life. Hermes was the messenger, able to deliver communiqué from the gods to humans as well as information from mortals to the Divine. We can utilize this divine messenger as a metaphor. The spirit of Hermes lives as we allow…

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Being and Becoming in Relationships

By Paul Dunion / July 30, 2017

The natures of Being and Becoming in relationships often go undefined and therefore hard to talk about or do anything about. If the features of Being or Becoming go unnamed, then a shroud of emptiness and estrangement descend upon a relationship. However, acknowledging and welcoming either the deeper life of Being or Becoming can revitalize…

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The Many Stories We Live In

By Paul Dunion / July 30, 2017

We tend to see ourselves as either knowing something or eager to know. We tend to forget about ourselves as the inquirer. Our personal identities become vague and opaque. There may be a richer way to both be informed by our experience and be clearer about whom we are. I would invite the consideration that…

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A Glimpse into Emotional Intimacy

By Paul Dunion / April 23, 2017

The typical reaction I get when I bring up the topic of intimacy is the assumption I’m referring to sex.  Usually, I’m not. But this common reaction is telling in regard to our understanding of Emotional Intimacy.  Has the culture insisted upon the notion of intimacy being about sex?  Has this limited our understanding of…

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The Purposes of Self-Loathing

By Paul Dunion / April 7, 2017

The psyche exercises an intense regard for its own protection. At times, it will indulge in what appear to be self-inflicted harm, if it believes such treatment will contribute to other fundamental needs such as survival.  Self-loathing or the loss of self-love is often one of those strategies employed in support of some other basic…

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Embracing Self-Forgiveness

By Paul Dunion / April 7, 2017

Let’s start by looking at the word forgive in order to shed some light upon what actually happens when we are forgiving.  The prefix for comes from the German, meaning “away”.  We can say that that the word, forgive might mean “away give” or “give away someone’s wrongdoing or transgressions”. Giving them away suggests we…

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How Could This Happen?

By Paul Dunion / March 5, 2017

The above question typically surfaces when some alleged aberration of life, as we know, it jolts us from what we deem customary. It could be a neighborhood teen dying of an overdose, a clergy member having sex with your brother-in-law or a favorite relative being indicted for embezzlements. Initially, the shock keeps us believing we…

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Beyond Sophie’s Choice

By Paul Dunion / February 1, 2017

In the 1982 film, Sophie’s Choice, Sophie, played by Meryl Streep, is a Jew sentenced with her two children to Auschwitz. The Germans place her in the horrible predicament of having to choose which of her children will live and which will be gassed. She chooses the life of her son, sacrificing her daughter, condemning…

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Acceptance

By Paul Dunion / February 1, 2017

Is what flows in the name of acceptance ever pure?  Acceptance is a welcome. At its best, we receive someone or something into our neighborhoods, our homes, our bodies, minds and hearts.  Uncle Fred arrives for Thanksgiving dinner, and our welcome is mitigated by the expectation that he will be obnoxious, drink too much and…

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You Can’t Get Life Right

By Paul Dunion / February 1, 2017

It can take a long time before we understand and accept that we can’t get life right or correctly.  Our culture is obsessed with the illusion that we all can get life right. You just need the right education, the right networking, the right financial investments and right stuff to get it all right. Of…

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