Paul Dunion, EdD

The above question typically surfaces when some alleged aberration of life, as we know, it jolts us from what we deem customary. It could be a neighborhood teen dying of an overdose, a clergy member having sex with your brother-in-law or a favorite relative being indicted for embezzlements. Initially, the shock keeps us believing we…

In the 1982 film, Sophie’s Choice, Sophie, played by Meryl Streep, is a Jew sentenced with her two children to Auschwitz. The Germans place her in the horrible predicament of having to choose which of her children will live and which will be gassed. She chooses the life of her son, sacrificing her daughter, condemning…

Is what flows in the name of acceptance ever pure?  Acceptance is a welcome. At its best, we receive someone or something into our neighborhoods, our homes, our bodies, minds and hearts.  Uncle Fred arrives for Thanksgiving dinner, and our welcome is mitigated by the expectation that he will be obnoxious, drink too much and…

It can take a long time before we understand and accept that we can’t get life right or correctly.  Our culture is obsessed with the illusion that we all can get life right. You just need the right education, the right networking, the right financial investments and right stuff to get it all right. Of…

The Intellectual Bypass like all Bypasses is an attempt to find a detour around the necessity of living life on life’s terms and therefore to forgo remaining an apprentice to what it means to live life on life’s terms. This Bypass favors thinking to being. The classic example of a character attached to this Bypass…

The psychological processing bypass is likely the most insidious of the bypasses. Employing it typically accompanied by denial that it is actually taking place. Anyone witnessing it is hard-pressed to identify what’s going on as a bypass. But, bypasses are like that. They’re are meant to conceal what is actually taking place and have the…

It’s that time of the year when many of us will be Playing Family. The following characteristics reflect the difference between the two. However, many families are doing some of both. The key is to be mindful of how much Being Family vs. Playing Family is taking place, and deciding what you want and how…

IndieReader, an online magazine featuring books written by Independent Authors has declared Seekers: Finding Our Way Home “a thoughtful, warm, and benevolent guide for those who find, or want, their lives to be a continual quest for spiritual and emotional growth.” Paul wrote his newest book for those who seek a spiritual home. We are…

Kirkus Reviews, a highly respected book reviewer has declared Seekers: Finding Our Way Home “[a] guidebook explores avid seekers and their vision quests…a densely packed celebration of the resilience in some questioning souls.” We are honored by Kirkus’ glowing review and want to share it with all of Paul’s readers: “Why does everyone else seem…

We live in a society offering ongoing homage to images of heroism.  Is our fascination with heroic gestures reflective of a desire to be victorious over death?  Is it symbolic of our investment in winning? Do we actually believe that our goal is to conquer life? A propensity for being heroic typically denies personal limits,…