A Blessing for Shyness

By Paul Dunion / November 14, 2018

Shyness has been greatly misunderstood with insinuations of a missing courage and a loss of spirit.  I have always found shyness to be trustworthy, lacking in pretense, with no striving to impress. However, the trustworthiness of shyness far exceeds what it doesn’t do. I’m thankful to say that after years of turning away and toward…

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BOUNDARIES AND THE HEALING OF DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA

By Paul Dunion / November 8, 2018

  Trauma can be defined as an unregulated nervous system due to the violation of a physical, sexual or emotional boundary. An unregulated nervous system tends to constrict thinking, feeling and acting. Developmental trauma is the result of repeated violations throughout childhood. It leaves violated individuals confused about how to support their own safety. These…

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The Heart’s Fool

By Paul Dunion / October 29, 2018

It was inevitable, right from the beginning.  My original home, tucked away, gently resting in the cavern of my mother’s belly, with her waters protecting me from harm.  And then the push, a push I will experience throughout my life in so many different ways.  Urging me forward toward an unwelcome separation and a broken…

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Being Present

By Paul Dunion / January 31, 2018

We have been strongly encouraged by spiritual visionaries and social scientists to focus our attention on the here-and-now. Similar to most ancient definitions, the word present is treated mostly as a verb denoting action, and not a noun. An old definition of the word present is “being at hand, not absent”. We can translate “being…

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A Crisis of Morality

By Paul Dunion / December 19, 2017

There is a crisis of morality that deserves to be identified and understood.  Such a crisis can be described as confusion regarding what will sustain our hearts, our minds and our bodies.  We simply elected a leader who behaviorally yelled, “I’m going to take the swamp you created, strip it of its sophistication and subtlety,…

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Beyond Abusive Compensations of Power, Addressing Sexual Harrassment

By Paul Dunion / December 19, 2017

I am encouraged by Stephen Marche’s New York Times article, “The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido”.  Mr. Marche appropriately invites men to take their masculinity seriously: “… let’s start with a basic understanding that masculinity is a subject worth thinking about”. It is an extremely worthwhile summons that has been duly ignored since Herb…

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It’s Your Life and Your Destiny

By Paul Dunion / October 9, 2017

You will inevitably live out some kind of relationship with fate, which is your life.  As in all relationships, you adopt an attitude toward fate, some way of thinking, feeling and acting toward it. However, a great deal can be lost when we don’t pause and examine what kind of relationship we are constructing.  Let’s…

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Seven Steps to Increased Emotional Resilience

By Paul Dunion / August 27, 2017

Being fully alive offers countless opportunities to exercise emotional resiliency. Life presents us with defeat, loss, suffering and ample chances to undergo a broken heart. An old definition of the word resilient is “to rebound”. We can begin by asking: Rebounding from what and to what? When the weight of life crushes down on us,…

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Wrestling With a Drunken Goat-Herder or The Sacred

By Paul Dunion / August 27, 2017

It was a Monday morning, the day after I attended a Matthew Fox workshop.  Typically, I would still be carrying the glow of having been in the presence of a man who devoted his life to the pursuit of The Sacred.  However, as I left my office, heading toward the kitchen, I carried an interior…

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Psychological Healing

By Paul Dunion / July 30, 2017

We continue to view psychological wounding as an aberration. Consequently, folks who admit they need such healing are defined as having unnatural childhoods, leaving them stigmatized as damaged goods. We have yet to normalize our understanding that because our caregivers were imperfect, we would have experienced a level of neglect or abuse, leaving us wounded.…

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