Leaders are especially vulnerable to the cultural mandate that they are not supposed to be lost. Laurence Gonzales’ seminal work, Deep Survival, suggests that when leaders are lost, denial of being lost is inevitable. “Being lost then, is not a location; it is a transformation. It is a failure of mind. It can happen in…

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I have met you, but I don’t know you. I wonder what it would take to move from stranger to friend with you. Some say your presence is fleeting, leaving me curious about offering you a fervent invitation to stay. Could it be me? Do I not offer you an authentic welcome? How does my…

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We all love hearing beliefs that are indistinguishable from our own. What can we make of this propensity to rejoice over conversations where the participants agree, confirm and even applaud our beliefs? The ego remains convinced that its current version of truth must be correct. It is often the ego’s tenacity about being right that…

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Kabir says, “When deep inside you there is a loaded gun, how can you have God?” Kabir appears to be reminding us that our relationship with the divine is dependent upon living with diminished inner violence. As one who desires to make peace, you are asked to become acquainted with your gun, the one pointed…

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Our streets are talking to us. The talk is loud and mostly true. It says, “Black lives matter”, “Marginalization of some hurts everyone”, “Separation breeds ignorance and fear”, “Leadership from ego cannot hold those who are following” and “It’s time to recall the power of kindness and compassion”. These voices can be ignored or they…

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Liminal time is the between what was and what will be. The familiar increasingly fades while the new known is yet to be revealed. It won’t help to allow an understanding of this to recede too far into some abstract consideration. Hence, we can image liminal time from the perspective of the trapeze artist who…

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An enmeshed family diminishes the value of individual members while prioritizing the wellbeing of the group. The enmeshed imperative is: Are you giving enough to others? Weak boundaries do not successfully separate and honor individual preferences and needs. There is a way to be, and individual family members are encouraged to figure that out and…

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An enmeshed family diminishes the value of individual members while prioritizing the wellbeing of the group. The enmeshed imperative is: Are you giving enough to others? Weak boundaries do not successfully separate and honor individual preferences and needs. There is a way to be, and individual family members are encouraged to figure that out and…

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We’re familiar with the feelings of anger, sadness fear and joy. We’re willing to at least acknowledge that these feelings exist, if not in us, then somewhere, in somebody. One or more of them may be somewhat familiar to you. However, one feeling tends to live anonymously – touched and moved. What is this feeling…

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There appears to be increased alarm about young males becoming obsessed with playing video games. The concern may be approaching epidemic proportions as there are now counselors and psychologists identified as experts who treat video game obsession or addiction. Undoubtedly, anyone playing video games seven or eight hours per day is likely to be in…

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