A Blessing For Seekers

By Paul Dunion / February 25, 2019

The same contractions that pushed and nudged you from the comfort and repose of your mother’s womb will again and again announce the presence of some threshold awaiting you. May you be received with welcome whenever you dare to be born again. That initial incubation was meant to prepare you for something larger. You were,…

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Apprenticeship With Integrity

By Paul Dunion / February 24, 2019

Contrary to popular opinion, the arduous work of living in integrity has little or nothing to do with being moral.  It’s not about right and wrong. It’s about who you are. It’s about growing up.  It’s about leaving home enough times to know what are your personal values, rather than believing in something because you…

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Tub Talk

By Paul Dunion / January 28, 2019

I have committed to bringing what I refer to as more Hermetic energy into my life. Hermes was the messenger, able to deliver communiqué from the gods to humans as well as information from mortals to the Divine.  We can utilize this divine messenger as a metaphor. The spirit of Hermes lives as we allow…

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The Betrayal of Manhood

By Paul Dunion / January 23, 2019

“Boy, it’s time for you to die!” proclaims an indigenous Chief flanked by tribal elders dressed in their ritualistic garb, about to address an American boy whom they found lost in the jungle and raised.  (From the film ‘The Emerald Forest’, based upon a true story.)  An unspoken tragedy of our times is that it…

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The Quiet Wound

By Paul Dunion / January 21, 2019

Unlike wounds resulting from physical or sexual abuse where the invasive energy is blatant, the wounding energy of Emotional Incest is stealthy and very difficult to track. The intrusive psychic energy of the perpetrator is packaged in care and attention. It can be quite challenging to break into this care-package and reveal the expectations and…

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Developmental Trauma and Boundaries Supporting a Well Lived Life

By Paul Dunion / January 1, 2019

Trauma can be defined as the experience of an unregulated nervous system due to the violation of a physical, sexual or emotional boundary.  An unregulated nervous system tends to constrict thinking, feeling and acting. Developmental trauma is the result of repeated violations throughout childhood. It leaves violated individuals confused about how to support their own…

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Seeking the Sacred

By Paul Dunion / December 19, 2018

An ancient definition of the word sacred is “confirming what truly matters”.  Obviously, it’s always a good time to confirm what truly matters.  However, the Winter Solstice ushering in diminished light, Christmas, Hanukkah and an end of the year review may be a fitting time to confirm what truly matters.  I recommend suspending some probing…

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Returning to the Light

By Paul Dunion / December 9, 2018

Once darkness descends, it can be very difficult to return to the light. Darkness comes when you feel forgotten by those you deeply hoped would remember you.  Darkness comes when loss arrives seemingly indifferent about the removal of your health or a loved one succumbing to illness or injury. Darkness comes when a cherished belief…

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Radical Parenting

By Paul Dunion / November 30, 2018

Radical Parenting There is a strong distinction between effective parenting and radical parenting. We can think about effective parenting including: providing safety and continuity to a child’s life, offering encouragement, acknowledgement of a child’s emotional experience, holding authority with clear boundaries that are neither abusive nor reflecting abdication, supplying logical consequences for unacceptable behavior, addressing…

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A Blessing for Healing

By Paul Dunion / November 18, 2018

May your healing stories grow, with clarity about the wounding, embellished by depictions of boldness, grace, resolve and forgiveness.  Let these narratives find some small place where the voices of the demons haunting your soul continue to soften. When the journey invites you to turn against yourself, remember those who came before you, your ancestors,…

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