It’s been said that when we trust another, we hold the
belief that the other will tell us the truth and be kind to
to us. In a culture so concerned with what goes on
between people, we define trust as a belief in two things:
to believe the other will tell us the truth and will be kind to us.
The same definition can explain trusting ourselves.
We now have a way to measure the trust we hold for
ourselves. Do you believe you will allow yourself to know
your own truth? Do you believe you will treat yourself
kindly? Coming to know your own truth may mean you
need to have a showdown with convention or some
family belief handed down to you through generations.
Welcoming your desire is a fine place to begin to groom
self-trust. The path of desire is not a testimony to the
glory of immediate gratification. But rather something
more Epicurean, something more enlightening. Desire
will likely lead to the truth of your beliefs, your values
and what you love. Desire is a fire illuminating the way.
Living as the recipient of your own kindness is no
trivial matter. You will be called to make peace with
your mistakes. Such kindness is only possible if you
let go of the belief that harsh and cruel treatment of
yourself will produce more favorable outcomes in the
future. You will need to hold ignorance with compassion.
As you trust yourself, you engender a discernment that
decides who has earned your trust and who has not.
You will discover a salient clarity telling you whether
or not you hear another’s truth or whether you are
being treated kindly. The one who knows how to
trust herself, knows who to trust or distrust.