I don’t know how to die with you. There are so many ways we have not yet begun. Thrown together as mother and son. Never my intent to have my uniqueness become something so frightening for you to know. In the beginning, I decided that your fear meant there was something wrong with me. That…

Read More

There’s so much waiting for you. Let yourself stir gently. You’re moving from one world to another. There’s no rush. Let your departure from sleep be held in grace. You’re at the threshold, birthing new eyes. You are greeting a new light, a soft light of dawn that welcomes you. Do not turn your back…

Read More

There is a cultural phenomenon deserving our attention. That is, the increased appearance of families committed to looking good. We’ll examine some of the actual dynamics in a looking good family and attempt to name what drives parents to create such a system. We’ll conclude with some suggestions to support healing for survivors of a…

Read More

There are many life questions. Some will lead you to find sustenance; some, where to work, where to live, and some where to grow old. Your soul continues to live one question, even when there’s no apparent way to get your attention: Where are my People? For millennia upon millennia, a sensibility to your survival…

Read More

We come to believe in a personal morality or a personal spirituality that will guide our decisions and choices. Our times, characterized by confusion, complexity and rhetoric are calling us to also adopt a personal epistemology. Episte means “knowledge”, and epistemology is our best understanding and exploration of how we want to go about knowing.…

Read More

The ancients say that feeling vulnerable is knowing that you can be wounded. With that in mind, why should you value feeling vulnerable? Could it be that the ability to be wounded might mean able to be penetrated, penetrated by what life brings. And so, you are asked to live the question: “Am I penetrated…

Read More

The invitation is to live with these questions rather than to live by. To live by suggests each question gets a neat and tight answer and all is well. To live with reflects a commitment to respond to them throughout our lives, allowing them to refresh and renew our relationship with ourselves and deepening our…

Read More

Men who are pro-feminism miss the boat when their supportive efforts are allegedly driven by altruism or kindness. It is not that kindness is somehow inappropriate. It simply misses the depth of something authentically relational. Here are some of the pitfalls both genders experience with altruistic pro-feminism. “Look at me championing feminism.” When self-interest remains…

Read More

Gender inequality is written and spoken about as a disparity of power.  What is meant by power? An ancient definition of the word power is “able to”.  We live in a significantly extroverted culture and therefore the idea of being “able to”, will likely refer to several external conditions: education, occupation and finances. When we…

Read More

Friendship is the place where our hearts are touched and moved. Moved toward some depth of feeling and insight. Moved toward some new courage ushering me closer to a risk that has been waiting for me. My friend remembers himself in my presence, assuring me that distractions will be minimal. My friend remembers me, and…

Read More